Good morning, good people, as a mum anxiety and worry over your child’s well being is part and parcel of the job. Your concern for your child remains well into their adulthood and your old age.

Earlier this week I put up a poster eluding to adoptive parents being worried about the unknown.

More discussion needs to be had about this fear and worry. There are simply so many unknowns. In the case of an older child that is adopted, we would not know how our child was treated before we knew them. We do not fully know what situations they faced. Were they loved prior to joining our family.

For newborn adoptions, not all of us are privy to prenatal care. Did tummy mummy have her necessary dietary needs met? How has this impacted the pregnancy and development of baby.

Not knowing your child’s medical history is an absolute fear when visiting the doctor. This can be daunting when faced with  issues that may arise as they grow.

There is so much that is a mystery and there is no biological reference point. Most of our decisions are made intuitively.

Adoptive families have lots to deal with that most take for granted. Our child’s educational prowess or social behavior has to be monitored  carefully, harnessed and responded to adequately.

There are so many unknowns that it can be really scary. There are however so many things that are absolute certainties, like our love for our child. Like the bond that is so strong that has matured over time. Our children’s ability to pursue and excel at tasks given to them as we foster a relationship of trust, encouragement and affirmation.

The reality is that the unknowns will remain but may the joy of all that is known and all that is certain bring hope to those moments of the despair of the unknowns.

Love Always…